The Inner Critic as an Ancestral Wound that's tied to your abundance.

Most of our "demons" are grown right in our very own homes. Then passed down to each generation when the one before it couldn't heal it.Ancestral healing comes up often in the Akashic Records, and it’s something most of us are living whether we realize it or not. Many souls consciously choose to incarnate into specific family lines for a reason. From a soul perspective, our soul might say, “There are karmic lessons and soul contracts here that I want to neutralize or learn from.”

Sometimes we have even lived (past life) within the same bloodline generations before. A traumatic event may have occurred—something so painful that it sent energetic shock waves through the ancestral line. So the soul says:

“I contributed to that wound by not healing it before… so I will return to this family line again to clean it up." (Side note: this makes you your own ancestor).

This is what makes ancestral wounds feel so deeply personal. Old souls take on advanced soul work like this.

The Inner Critic as an Ancestral Shadow

When I look at The inner critic spiritually around others it often appears to me as a scary, white-faced hooded figure in black robes. It is the internalized voice of those who were harsh to us, dismissive of us, or even predatory toward us. For many people, the inner critic is connected to how someone preyed upon their innocence as a child.

The inner critic preys upon the inner child’s creativity, safety, and self-worth.

But when the inner critic is an ancestral wound, you must zoom out and look at it through a much larger lens. When you do, you begin to see how one—or many—of your ancestors encountered/lived with people who were:

• Harsh

• Abusive

• Controlling

• Dismissive

• Bullying

• Judgmental

• Power-hungry

These patterns echo down a family line.

This is a massive collective wound for women. For generations we were taught to shrink, self-criticize, and mistrust ourselves out of safety. We were never taught how to feel safe around masculine presence. And the body remembers.

One of the best ways to heal the inner critic is to learn from your inner child, "What they need to feel safe."

The Emotional Labor That Fuels the Inner Critic

This inner critic is the weight of every relationship, every decision, every outcome.

Your body is collapsing under the emotional labor of:

• managing the marriages

• holding everyone else’s emotions

• trying to “stay strong”

• suppressing fear

• keeping the peace

• pushing down doubts

• pretending you’re okay

Your inner child is trying to carry the emotional weight all by herself and shes crying to put something down.

Sometimes, when we are triggered, its helpful for us to ask our inner child what they needed that they didn't get in our past. They may say some of the following:

• stability

• reliability

• grounded masculine energy

• emotional safety

• provision

• integrity

• protection

• consistency

Then taking the time to give your inner child that very thing in some way even if its through reassurance that you are providing that now.

The Inner Critic & Its Counter-Shadow

In shadow work, every shadow has a counter-shadow.The inner critic is a toxic masculine shadow (closely tied to the Tyrant). Harsh judgment is used to evoke fear and create control.

Its counterpart is the Companion, the toxic feminine shadow that falls into victimization, manipulation, and drama — also used to control when fear takes over. (Read in depth about the Companion Shadow Here)

Here’s the loop:

When a toxic masculine driven person judges us or hurts us we often feel powerless in that moment. The toxic feminine within us is created because we reject ourselves or see ourselves as weak when we feel powerless. The inner critic forms when you reject your innate worthiness to receive support, love, resources, understanding, and emotional nourishment. All of this can happen simultaneously in a moment.

This loop blocks your abundance because you cannot receive when you believe you are unworthy or unsafe.

Where the Wound Begins

The original pain is the moment—especially in childhood—when an ancestor and you stopped feeling safe in your environment.

This could be betrayal, being used by an unsafe masculine figure, or simply not being protected. These wounds aren’t imagined; they came from real experiences that overwhelmed your nervous system.

As you grow older, you feel like you must carry those burdens alone. Eventually, it becomes too heavy for your inner child, who is desperately asking for relief.

This is why the inner critic becomes so vicious:

In moments when your inner critic is loud its because in that moment you do feel surrendered, at ease, creative, or you are receiving abundance. It tries to protect you (albeit misguided) from further disappointment by stopping you from receiving anything at all—including abundance.

Why the Divine Feminine Is Essential

Your Divine Feminine is the antidote to the inner critic.

She is the part of you that offers:

• mothering

• nurturing

• support

• meeting with compassion

• treating with tenderness

But the moment you move toward soothing yourself, the inner critic snaps:

“You don’t deserve that.” "Who do you think you are?"

This is the exact place where abundance gets blocked. You don't feel safe to receive the abundance emotionally first.

The shadow dissolves when the inner child feels consistently cared for and loved. That’s when abundance begins to flow again.

Possible Beliefs that Contribute to your Inner Critic

Take a moment to look at these and reflect. Do any of these resonate to you or trigger emotions for you?

Your right to be supported

Maybe you believe:

• “I shouldn’t need anything.”

• “Asking for help will burden people.”

• “No one shows up for me anyway.”

• “I have to do it all myself.”

Your right to be treated fairly:

Maybe you believe:

• “Other people should come first.”

• “My needs don’t matter.”

• “It’s selfish to want anything.”

Your right to be worthy without earning it:

Maybe you believe:

• “You don’t deserve that.”

• “You need to work harder.”

• “Who do you think you are wanting that?”

• "If I comply then they will accept me or I'll have peace."

Your right to receive love without performing

Maybe you believe:

• “I’m only lovable if I act a certain to this person.”

• “I must earn affection.”

• “If I don’t prove myself, I’ll be abandoned.”

  This becomes that, "Who do you think you are?" Statements that I often hear inner critic shadows say when I do 1:1 work with Lightworkers

  
  

Your right to receive abundance

Maybe you believe:

• Receiving makes me vulnerable to being taken advantage of

• If I have abundance (even emotional) others will take it

• If I receive recognition someone will bring me down

This is how the inner critic blocks your joy, your money, your opportunities, and your connection.

Why the Inner Critic Forms: The Spiritual Protector

The inner critic forms because:

• You needed support as child, but no one came.

• When you spoke up, you were “too much" and learned “I must be the problem.”

• You were forgotten unless you proved to others you mattered by over giving.

So the inner critic becomes a spiritual protector that guards you from receiving—because receiving once led to disappointment or danger.

This is why abundance feels unsafe: Receiving requires vulnerability.

The Ancestral Paradigm Shift

Healing this ancestral wound is about transforming what we as women have been taught to accept from relationships and life.

• Instead of sacrificing our happiness; acting like our happiness matters & advocating for it

• We need emotional allies outside of our marriage & family also- A sisterhood tribe

• Community joy not emotional loneliness

• Mutual respect in our relationships so our relationships/home can feel like a sanctuary

• A place where we aren't bracing for the next blow to our inner peace or safety

• To stop losing ourselves in a relationship by still choosing ourselves in them

• Stops sacrificing our needs, purpose, and happiness, but seek emotional reciprocity

• To feel like our dream life is allowed

• To know and see that at some point the light will come back to take back everything the darkness stole

  
  

This is abundance. This is the feminine reclaiming her birthright.

Healing the Inner Critic = Opening the Door to Abundance

The inner critic guards the door to our dream life just like the companion guards the wall to our hearts.

The inner critic heals when we shine light on the part of us that felt:

• unprotected

• left out

• unsupported

• like the black sheep

• like we weren’t allowed to receive abundance

And we begin:

• practicing gratitude

• moving toward what lights us up

• taking up space

• sharing vulnerable truths

• supporting ourselves

• setting healthy boundaries with unsafe people

When we shed light on the parts of us that need kindness and actually offer the compassion this creates space for abundance to enter your life again.

My Personal Story

In my own inner child work, the inner critic revealed itself as an ancestral wound — something I inherited through my mother line.

Intuitively, when I looked back, I realized most of the women in my family had been sexually abused by either a male family member or someone outside the family. The belief that formed was:

“We must have done something wrong to deserve this. We must be careful. We are not safe.”

This belief was passed down for 32 generations.

When I was four years old, I was abused by an older male neighbor. Through my Akashic Records, I learned that this trauma wasn’t just personal—it was ancestral. My inner child was alone and unsupported in that moment, just like the generations before me. I had to spiritually go back to this moment and courageously face this predator and rescue my inner inner child. (This is known as soul retrieval)

The wound I inherited was:

“I am not safe with men. I must have caused this. I don’t deserve protection.”

But when I began healing this wound—my own trauma and the ancestral belief—it shifted everything. It positively affected my marriage, my relationships, my sense of worth, and my ability to receive abundance.

Healing myself freed the 32 women before me. And it freed the generations after me.

The Truth About Abundance

Abundance is not just financial. It is:

• emotional safety

• joy

• connection

• support

• belonging

• confidence

• pleasure

• visibility

• authenticity

• receiving without guilt

The inner critic guards the door to all of these.

When you heal it, abundance returns—naturally, effortlessly, and in ways the generations before you never got to experience.